Do you have a love/hate relationship with anger?

Let's face it; anger is not the most welcomed guest at the dinner party.

Most of us are not seeking out or wanting more time with anger.

Quite the opposite, I think we tend to shun and shame anger.

But is it serving us or making us more prone to outbursts?

Think of a mom losing her cool with her child at the grocery store.

How do you react?

What do you think?

How do you feel?

Share in the comments below—no judgment or criticism. Share your genuine thoughts and feelings. This is a safe space to share.

Let's remove the shame around anger and see it for what it is.

Chances are your heart doesn't swell with love and understanding when you think of someone's angry outburst.

Anger can be scary.

Anger can create disconnection, miscommunication and misunderstanding.

I know I used to get all judgy. "Oh my, what is wrong with that person!?"

And if you are honest, you might be able to relate to a time when you judged someone's angry outburst too.

But, if you are equally honest, you might recognize that a part of you is also prone to anger – seemingly out of nowhere at times.

And it's not pretty either.

It's not softer and cuddlier than the image of that mom losing her cool.

In fact, if I am honest, I know that I have been that mom … X10.

And that's what made me a master at keeping it hidden for a long time.

Are you good at keeping yours stuffed way down too?

We keep it locked up because, let's face it, we don't like it - it doesn't feel good. And it's not you, and it's not me, either.

It feels incongruent to who I know I truly am.

So that raises the question; if it's not me, how is it coming out of me in the first place?

Think of an orange.

Think of the sweet fragrance and flavour of an orange freshly picked from the tree.

Delightful. Right?

Mmm, imagine smelling that fragrance.

Now, think about squeezing out that sweet orange juice goodness.

Is there a way to squeeze it so that something other than orange juice, or orange fragrance, would come out?

Not possible right?

There is no way to pressure the orange to be or express anything that is not the essence of an orange.

Take a deep breath right now.

Turn the attention on you for a moment. 

Think about something that gets you out of your skin.

Think of an uncontrolled outburst of anger you might have had recently or in the past.

Where did it come from?

Because I know it's not you, you know it’s not you, and it's not OF you either.

Anger is NOT your essence.

So, where did it come from?

Let's examine it for what it is.

Let's start a meaningful conversation so you feel empower to create lasting change in your life, your relationships and your health.

What if what we were taught about anger is wrong?

What if it is not the scary monster we made it out to be?

What if it is a powerful ally, and the act of shoving it in the closet is what is causing the outbursts in the first place?

Hit the reply button and message me about your experience with anger, how you perceive it when it comes from others, and your own experience of how you express it.

Imagine having an empowering relationship with anger instead of a disempowering one?

How might it change your health, life and love?

Much love,

Marie-Josee

Live. Love. Laugh. It matters because YOU matter.

Ps. If you struggle with anger, even in a small way, and can see the benefit of not being enslaved to it, follow your gut and schedule a call. Let’s talk!