You may have heard about the importance of self-love, but what does it even mean?
It’s not like you can kiss and hug yourself. Can you? And, should you?
How exactly do you go about loving yourself? It’s not something we are usually taught. In fact, you are more likely to have been taught not to be selfish and to give to others instead of yourself.
But your relationship with yourself is the most significant connection in your life. After all, you spend more time with yourself than you anyone else. Yet, it’s easy to forget about nurturing that relationship with yourself.
Louise Hay, one of the founders of Hay House, was well known for practicing self-love. She carried a mirror in her pocket to see herself frequently throughout the day and hold conversations with herself. That mirror in her pocket was a reminder to nurture her relationship with herself regularly.
If you knew her, you might have thought her self-relationship was a bit strange. But spend some time with her, and you could see it was real. She understood the importance of making herself number one in her life.
Self-love and compassion are too important to neglect because they shape your experiences and relationships with other people. No man is an island. When you take care of yourself, you are better equipped to take care of others. It’s not selfish at all. It’s necessary for your health and wellbeing.
So, protect your health and wellbeing by making positive changes in how you think about and treat yourself.
Change can be difficult but think of it in terms of small degree shifts. For example, if you went for a long walk, any change in direction would get you to a very different place in the long term. Yet, any slight shift will be effortless when you make it. Though in the long run, you might be far from the original destination point.
You have to treat changes in the way you think about yourself in the same way. Make small shifts that get you somewhere completely different in the long run.
You might be hard on yourself, or you’re so busy with external obligations that you rarely consider your personal priorities. In that case, looking inward could help you to value yourself more.
Then start to implement ways to Change the Way You Treat Yourself.
Do your actions match your beliefs? For example, you might say you love yourself, but your actions could be sending a different message. Sometimes we make promises to ourselves that we do not keep. Like, I will throw myself a party when I finish this project to celebrate, but then when the project ends, you jump right into the next one and don’t give yourself any time to celebrate at all.
If anyone else made you this promise and didn’t come through, you would be upset with them. It would be totally uncool. Yet, you do this to yourself repeatedly. You have to keep promises to yourself in the same way you would keep promises to other people.
Loving yourself can help you enjoy more happiness, overcome challenges, and build healthier relationships with others. Make it a habit to treat yourself with kindness and respect.
Live a life worthy of you because you matter, and the people around you benefit when you are at your best. You deserve the best that life has to offer. So, start treating yourself that way.
We have to take care of ourselves, pause to feel the next breath, and truly live this life to the fullest.
The journey continues every day. That’s why I create these trainings. We have to make the time to reconnect to ourselves and remind ourselves of who we are. We have to live out what we are here to be, do, have, create, express or experience.
It matters. Because you matter.
Live. Love. Laugh. Because it really does matter.
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