It's not your words that are the problem. It's the story underneath them.

Have you ever walked away from a conversation, replaying every word you said, wishing you could take half of it back?

That's what overexplaining feels like.

It's like packing for a trip with a carry-on and then cramming in three weeks' worth of outfits' just in case.' Ever done that? Or is it just me?

You end up with a suitcase that won't close, weighs a ton, and takes up the space of what really matters.

Overexplaining isn't clarity. It's clutter.

We do it because deep down we're afraid of being misunderstood, dismissed, or judged. But sadly, the more we explain, the less people actually hear us. It's the opposite of what we are trying to achieve in the first place.

So, why do we do it?

• To prove we're not wrong.
• To soften what we really mean.
• To keep everyone comfortable.
• To avoid being seen as "too much" or "not enough."

But the cost? Our truth gets buried. Our power is diluted. And our relationships feel unsatisfying because no one actually knows the real us.

Then, to make matters worse, we try to fix it, but it backfires!

Here are the 5 mistakes you might be making to try to fix it (that backfire):

Mistake #1: Rehearsing every word in your head.

You think preparation will help, but it makes you sound robotic and even less authentic.

Mistake #2: Adding disclaimers.

You start with, "I could be wrong, but…" or "This might not make sense…" in an effort to soften the blow, but you undermine yourself from the start.

Mistake #3: Apologizing before and after.

You say, "Sorry, this is long," or "I hope that wasn't confusing." Which only reinforces the idea that your words are a burden.

Mistake #4: Holding back completely.

Tired of overexplaining, you shut down and say nothing at all. But silence isn't confidence, it's self-erasure.

Mistake #5: Reading more books or tips on "communication hacks."

You continue to consume information, but don't change the underlying story. The one that says my truth is dangerous unless I explain it perfectly.

The problem isn't overexplaining. The problem lies beneath the story.

The fear of rejection, of being unwanted or that if you don't perform perfectly, you won't belong. And until that fear is faced, you'll keep looping in that same self-defeating cycle.

So, what can you do instead? Instead of rehearsing, apologizing, or hiding, what if you could sit right at the threshold moment? The moment where your chest tightens, your words wobble, and you want to justify yourself, and stay present to it?

That's where Story Alchemy comes in. It helps you face the exact moment you've been avoiding, to sit with it, to feel it, and to realize the wall you keep hitting is actually the doorway to your freedom.

Imagine how your life would change if you no longer had to overexplain:

• If, at work, you spoke once and your voice landed?
• If, in your relationships, you felt heard and respected?
• If, inside, you felt lighter because you finally trust your truth?

That's precisely what happens when you rewrite the story running the show.

The cost of staying the same? Years more of exhaustion, resentment, and silence.

The cost of change? Walking through the threshold moment once and never being chained to that story again.

No brainer, right?

Right now, you have two choices:

1. You can keep doing what you've always done — explaining, apologizing, rehearsing — and stay in the loop.
2. Or you can join Story Alchemy, learn to face the threshold moment, and step into your unapologetic truth.

So, what will it be?

Another year of explaining yourself away?

Or a new story where your words carry weight, your truth feels safe, and you finally live aligned and fully alive? Join me inside Story Alchemy, and let's walk through that doorway together.

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